One thing that may help you as much as it helped me is in offering your lover something. She likes it and she makes her pleasure known.
For example, I have a saucer dedicated to her where I place some things I think she may like, such as foods that I cook or grow.
I just offered her my first ripened tomato which I dedicated to her when I first planted them. It was a small one, but it’s hers.
I don’t believe it has to be anything extravagant. It just has to be thoughtful. It really is the thought that counts. I just make sure to say “Baby, it’s all yours and I hope you like it”.